There’s a sentiment going around in the mommy world: “Don’t ask me how my baby is sleeping!” Oh, sleep…perhaps the most sensitive topic for parents of babies.
Maybe you have a baby that does this all night:
Or maybe your baby’s approach to sleep looks more like this:
Either way, baby sleep can be a very polarizing topic. Parents of bad sleepers want to secretly give well rested parents a punch concoction of 5 Hour Energy and Red Bull, just so they can see what it’s like to be awake for hours on end (or maybe they just want to give them a real punch…of the fist variety). Parents of great sleepers want to give you unsolicited advice…in 3 easy steps, you too can get your child to sleep through the night! (Ok, maybe not all of them are like that, but when you’re one of the parents with the bad sleepers, it sure feels like everyone else is trying to give you the magic cure-all formula.)
I think through that unspoken tension between the two sleeping worlds, there developed a movement to just avoid the sleep topic altogether: “Don’t ask me how my baby is sleeping!”
I get where they’re coming from, but I just don’t agree. I say, DO ask me how my baby is sleeping…no really, ask! Motherhood is a shared journey…not just with your spouse, but with other moms everywhere. I love being able to share the joys and trials of this adventure with other mommas. If my baby is waking up every hour, I want to be able to lament my lack of sleep with you (and give an explanation for why I’m so un-showered and scatterbrained). If my baby is sleeping through the night, I want to be able to rejoice with you that I FINALLY feel human again (and smell better too)! So please, do ask me me how my baby is sleeping…really, ask me!
[But if I have a wakeful baby, just maybe hold off on any unsolicited advice…because as any mommy of a poor sleeper can attest, we’ve read all the books, used all of the devices, and tried all the tricks. And all that’s left is to lament to another sympathetic mommy…and sleep whenever you can, like this lady (not me, but I’ve totally been there done that)]: