April 14, 2015

More Than Just a Mom

This piece can now be found on the Huffington Post (Hurrah!).  Click HERE if you’d like to check it out there πŸ™‚

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The moment you were conceived, you made me a mom.

But as you started to grow, I grew too…and you made me more than a mom.

9 long months of pregnancy.  I watched as my flat mid-section turned into a delightful baby bump… and then into a not quite as charming distended belly — a belly that pinched nerves, aggravated joints, and bullied surrounding organs. My once dainty feet swelled from bearing the weight of two humans, then merged upwards into barely identifiable ankles and vein ridden calves.  And the exhaustion! Oh such crippling exhaustion.  Yet I knew that every symptom was a sign of your growth.  A sign that you, my dear child, were flourishing.  And so I gladly endured. 

You made me long suffering.

Pregnancy culminated in a commencement — the end of your stay in my body, but the beginning of your time in this world.  Weeks of feckless and indecisive contractions had me wondering if I’d be pregnant forever.   Your approaching due date taunted me, and then laughed in my face as it went on its merry way.  But I knew every day you spent inside of me was another day I got to prepare you to take on the world.  And so I waited.

You made me patient.

And then, like the first scant rain-drops leading up to an epic thunderstorm, the real contractions started.  The drizzle turned to downpour and then reached monsoon proportions…hours upon long hours of toiling, and pain of overwhelming magnitude.  There were moments I thought my body would break, moments where my screams surely should have discouraged you from wanting to come out, moments I felt too weak to complete this seemingly endless and insurmountable undertaking.   But then, with one final undiluted effort to meet you, you were there.  And I knew I was strong.

You made me fierce.

Motherhood this side of the womb began, and with a lurch I was launched into a world of sacrifice.  My body, racked by the burdens of pregnancy, birth, and breastfeeding, would never be the same.  The forfeiting of rest as I knew it, replaced by the limitless exhaustion from the very limited sleep.  And I raised my white flag as I surrendered the last of my free-time.  My days were no longer mine, they were yours, my sweet one.  And I knew it was worth it.   

You made me selfless

As you grew, I matured too.  Every fall, scrape, and bump showed me the power of my hugs and kisses.  As I held you through feverish nights or vomit filled days, I felt you draw comfort and relief from my being.  And with every nerve-wracking hurdle that we crossed together, your trust in me assured me that I could do this mothering thing.  And I knew I was doing it right.

You made me confident.

And watching you grow opened my heart in ways I had never experienced.  The first time you reached your chubby arms out to me, my heart filled with warmth at your wordless request for my embrace.  When your wavering toddles became sure-footed steps and then confident bounds, I watched with pride as you learned to explore the world from a new altitude.  And every smile, every giggle, every full-throated belly laugh pierced my spirit, opening up new portals for happiness to flood my soul.  And I delighted in you.

You made me joyful.

When I conceived you, you made me a mom…but your profound impact on my life didn’t stop there.  You taught me to be forbearing and long-suffering — that I could be patient and endure.  When I thought my body would break, you made me find my inner warrior — proving to me that I was strong.  With every sacrifice I made, you helped me learn to die to myself — teaching me to be selfless.  With every challenge we overcame, you made me confident that I was well-suited to be your mother.  And as you carved out your existence in my life, you made me joyful.

You made me more than a mom. 



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Iulia is a former educator turned stay-at-home mama of a spunky toddler and a squishy infant. With a touch of sass and a good dose of self-deprecating humor, she has an ever-expanding repertoire of bloopers, insights, stories, and impassioned opinions to share. Iulia likes to think she has this parenting gig figured out, but her littles remind her daily just how far from the truth that is.

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  • slpayne@uncommongrace.net'
    Reply S.L. Payne April 14, 2015 at 10:50 pm

    This is so sweet! I totally agree πŸ™‚ My kids have taught me so much more than I ever expected, especially my foster daughter since I love her fiercely and yet she isn’t quite mine- it is such an unnatural situation that has helped shave layers of selfishness off me. Even if it is just temporary, I’d do it again because it is so very worth it. Thanks so much for sharing!
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    • Reply Bestofbaby April 15, 2015 at 10:29 pm

      How wonderful of you to be a foster parent. It truly is a self less act on your part…and what a blessing for your foster daughter!

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    Reply Maria April 15, 2015 at 6:25 am

    This is so endearing. I especially agree with the confident part. My daughter has made me stronger in so many ways and the confidence I have now is partly because of her. Thanks so much for sharing!
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    • Reply Bestofbaby April 15, 2015 at 10:28 pm

      Yes this is so true! I am a stronger and more confident person because of my children.

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    Reply keri April 15, 2015 at 9:49 am

    So beautiful- thanks for sharing at Tues Talk!
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    Reply Celi April 15, 2015 at 10:51 am

    This is so beautiful! I love the truths that you point out that we don’t always stop to think about. Thanks for sharing and reminding me that I am more than a mom. β™₯
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    • Reply Bestofbaby April 15, 2015 at 10:27 pm

      Thank you Celi! I’m glad you resonated with the piece πŸ™‚

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    Reply Nicole April 15, 2015 at 12:17 pm

    This is so wonderful! I love that when people think about being “more” than a mom, they often think of being “only” a mom as not “enough” for a woman. You have captured beautifully that being a mom is not about what is “enough” for the mom in her external world, and focused so beautifully on how much we grow as a human being when we put the needs of a child before our own. Thank you for sharing!
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    • Reply Bestofbaby April 15, 2015 at 10:24 pm

      Nicole than you so much for your sweet words…you totally summarized the sentiment I was going for πŸ™‚

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    Reply Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom April 16, 2015 at 9:52 am

    Aww, this is absolutely lovely. Yes, they do make us more than a mom – I am a better person because having children changed my whole outlook and approach to everything.

    Thank you for sharing this enchanting and beautiful thoughts with us (and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop).

    Wishing you a lovely day.
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    • Reply Bestofbaby April 18, 2015 at 4:09 pm

      Jennifer, thank you so much for your sweet comment! They really do change our outlook and approach (even if we’re sometimes not the most willing to change!)
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    Reply Katie April 16, 2015 at 10:26 am

    Beautifully said! I hate when people say you are ‘just a mom’ (especially now that I’m a SAHM). They really do make us more than ‘just’ a mom! Love it πŸ™‚

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    Reply Misty April 16, 2015 at 2:27 pm

    Such a beautiful post! Isn’t it amazing how much motherhood changes us??

  • louise@littleheartsbiglove.co.uk'
    Reply Louise April 16, 2015 at 5:16 pm

    Such a beautiful post – motherhood changes us in so many ways and we definitely become more than we ever thought we could be. Thank you for sharing πŸ™‚

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    Reply Lisa (mummascribbles) April 17, 2015 at 2:59 am

    What a gorgeous post. It’s amazing how motherhood has such a huge impact on us and makes us stronger than we ever knew. Thanks so much for linking up with #twinklytuesday – please remember to add our badge next time πŸ™‚ xx

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    Reply Gentle Joy April 17, 2015 at 12:04 pm

    Great post… we do learn so much from/with our precious children. πŸ™‚
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    • Reply Bestofbaby April 18, 2015 at 4:03 pm

      Thank you! And yes, they teach us so much.

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    Reply Ginger Harrington April 17, 2015 at 12:28 pm

    Beautifully written post. Isn’t it amazing how our children grow us into better people? I really like the way you organized this post. Visiting from Faith N Friends today.

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    Reply Lorretta April 17, 2015 at 1:27 pm

    Popping over from the Missional Women linkup and I’m so glad to find you here encouraging the Mommies! I truly do wish I’d had voices like yours in my life when I had littles. Bless you!
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    • Reply Bestofbaby April 18, 2015 at 4:03 pm

      Thank you Lorretta! I really do hope that this piece encourages other mommies.

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    Reply Julie April 17, 2015 at 4:40 pm

    This is beautiful! Our kids make us something very special indeed. We are more than just a mom, more than just that simple title.

    • Reply Bestofbaby April 18, 2015 at 4:01 pm

      Thank you Julie! Yes, the title mom really doesn’t encompass everything moms are πŸ™‚

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    Reply Emily M Morgan April 18, 2015 at 2:34 am

    Yep – we don’t realize how much they will change our lives or our selves. And it’s not something you can explain, people just have to experience it for themselves. Great post!

    • Reply Bestofbaby April 18, 2015 at 3:58 pm

      Agreed…I never would have understood the degree to which children impact our lives before actually having kids!

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    Reply Abbi April 18, 2015 at 12:14 pm

    I’m a nanny, and I loved every part of this post. Someday I’ll be a mom and experience the beginning of your post but day in and day out I experience the last parts! He makes me so confident and he scrapes away all selfishness.
    I’d like to invite you to my link party on Saturdays and would love if you would come share with me!
    Hope to see you there.
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    • Reply Bestofbaby April 18, 2015 at 3:56 pm

      Thanks for the invite…I linked up πŸ™‚ And you will be so well prepared for motherhood after nannying!

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    Reply Mel April 18, 2015 at 12:28 pm

    This is so beautiful. I look forward to following you here on your blog!

    • Reply Bestofbaby April 18, 2015 at 3:56 pm

      Thank you Mel! I hope you stick around πŸ™‚ Checking your blog out now πŸ™‚

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    Reply Charlene April 19, 2015 at 7:01 am

    This is a beautiful post and so very true! Thanks for sharing πŸ™‚

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    Reply Debbie Prater April 20, 2015 at 8:41 am

    Beautiful blog. Yes your life is never the same. It is greatly enlarged and blessed.

    • Reply Bestofbaby April 21, 2015 at 5:20 pm

      Thank you Debbie! And “enlarged and blessed” are perfect adjectives πŸ™‚

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    Reply Andrea Mitchael April 21, 2015 at 7:52 am

    This is gorgeous and brilliant! I love the part when you remember giving birth and shared:

    And I knew I was strong.

    You made me fierce.

    So true. <3 thank you for articulating this!

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    Reply Shannon April 21, 2015 at 4:11 pm

    So sweet! Thanks for sharing on #MommyMoments
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    Reply Terri Presser April 22, 2015 at 4:31 pm

    Beautifully written, thank you for sharing at Good Morning Mondays. Blessings
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    Reply Alycia April 23, 2015 at 6:45 pm

    what a beautiful post. Motherhood really does change us in so many ways. You really dont understand until you’ve experienced it! You have written it so beautifully!!

    Thanks for linking up with the Saturday Spotlight! XO

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    Reply Arabah Joy April 23, 2015 at 11:19 pm

    Amen, sister. God uses motherhood to do so much in our lives, to make us so much MORE. Thanks for sharing and linking at Grace and Truth πŸ™‚

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    Reply JES May 1, 2015 at 2:08 pm

    Good afternoon, I just wanted to let you know we have FEATURED this post this week on the Art of Home-Making Mondays. Just wonderful encouragement and I thank you for linking with us! πŸ™‚

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